This information is a condensed version of information separately complied by both William Kirkendale, President of P.A.S. Foundation and the 15 years of P.A.S. experience of Lawrence Larocca, attorney at law.

Lawrence Larocca can attest to the harmful damage that the child victimized experiences. Throughout his 15 year career in family law, he has seen first hand the depression, emotional distress, and even anger and resentment that the child goes through and how the anger usually turns towards the antagonistic parent, sometimes delayed later in life through adulthood. The compounding of these harmful negative emotions hurts the child tremendously and usually always results in much needed therapy and psychiatrists. It ends up hurting everyone involved, especially the child.

50% of the child's DNA is the victimized parent being put down directly to the child or in front of the child. The antagonistic parent may not realize the child, in most cases, will feel they are part of this negativity and take these negative emotions and insults to heart. This hurts the child severely.

DO'S

DO...Take immediate action by the Court to STOP the abuse of your child. Remind the Court in the strongest terms possible that your children's health is at risk.

DO...start to immediately educate yourself, your lawyer, your Judge, your psychologist and your child, if possible, about PAS and that it is one of the most frequently abuses in child custody cases.

DO...fully prepare to give a presentation about PAS in court. To do this you should print and make several copies of all the information on PAS you find on these web sites and put them in at least four (4) separate booklets and entitle them.. ?URGENT"

DO...tell the Court if they don?t act immediately to stop your child?s abuse, you will take your PAS case and all the proof and evidence you provided the Court on your child's PAS condition to the local newspapers and T.V. stations.

DO...continue to reach out to your child no matter how many times they tell you how much they despise you and never want to see you again. While they may say these things to you, the fact is they really don't hate you and actually very desperately want to see you again.

DO...keep your faith in God and yourself at all times while always taking the high road to fight and solve this problem.

DON'TS

DON'T...trust or count on ANYONE to know anything about PAS or to try and help you save your child and your relationship together. Almost all lawyers, Judges, psychologists and Court mediators who are involved in your case KNOW little ABOUT PAS.

DON'T...trust or count on ANYONE to properly educate themselves on PAS. This is particularly true about your former spouse, Family Court Judges and Court appointed psychologists. You must do all this research and education about PAS yourself to transfer the information to the involved parties.

DON'T...allow the Court or anyone else to intimidate you. You may be challenged at every obstacle and told you don?t know what you are talking about when you mention PAS. Many will also tell you that PAS does not exist and that it has never been proven and does?t even exist in the Psychiatric Association?s Bible of mental and psychiatric disorders known as DSM-IV. Some of these people will further tell you that this was only an unproven invention by Dr. Richard Gardner.

DON'T...allow the Court or anyone else to delay or prolong your Court hearing on this matter. The longer this PAS abuse goes on with your child, the more difficult it will be for you to do anything to stop it...AND...If it goes on for too long without Court intervention (ie. 6 months or more) then your chances of ever re-establishing a normal healthy relationship with your child will start to approach ZERO.

DON'T...engage in any kind of retaliatory brainwashing PAS abuse of your child yourself. The temptation is always there. Take the moral ground for your child. 

DON'T...ever GIVE UP no matter what your hear. You will constantly hear people tell you that you should merely give up the fight to save your child from PAS.

DON'T...give up because a majority of these cases backfires on the antagonistic parent. by the time the child reaches adulthood, the child ends up resenting the parent inflicting the P.A.S. upon the child growing up. This can turn into a horrible emotional experience for the child  AND ALL involved and may become permanent and irreversible.